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How I am Leaning into My 50s with Confidence and Courage

4/30/2020

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By Cherie Faus Smith

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Turning 50 was such a pivotal time in my life. Not only was it the beginning of a new decade, but it was an opportunity for me to embrace the changes I was experiencing such as becoming an empty nester, menopause, weight gain, as well as the aches and pains that accompanied my aging body.

Because there are so many changes happening at once, it was time to make a choice.
  1. Either accept the changes that were happening to me mentally and physically OR
  2. Allow myself to go into a deep and dark depression
Since I am already an anxious person and have gone down the depression road once or twice before, I decided to flip the switch!

I am choosing confidence and courage over fear.
Let us face it, turning 50 can be scary.  It may not be as exciting as your 16th, 21st, or even 30th birthday celebrations but it can be if we allow ourselves to be brave and embrace this next chapter in our lives.

A few months before that momentous day, I made a conscious choice to change how I viewed being a 50-year-old woman. After surviving three abusive relationships and cancer, I wanted to show the world that this beautiful and brave woman was not going to allow age to define her.

It is time for other women who are getting ready to step into this new decade to wrap themselves in self-love and believe that they have something special to contribute to the world too.
I am leaning into my 50s by:
  • Getting out of my comfort zone. I have always played it safe and it is now time to overcome my fears and try new things; like zip-lining.
  • Changing careers. After graduating business school and working in the corporate world until my late thirties, I started my own virtual assistance business. For the past 14 years, I have supported numerous entrepreneurs and love every minute of my work. But it is time to follow my passions and mentor women who have reached the wonderful milestone of being 50.
Of course, not everything about being 50 is fabulous (even though it is darn close).

Downside of Turning Fifty
Where do I begin? The weight gain, grey hairs, mood swings, droopy breasts, and the oh so lovely hot flashes. And, let us not forget the reading glasses.

I was born with strawberry blonde hair and in my late twenties, I began dyeing (highlighting) my hair blonde. The first time I spotted a grey hair, I flipped out telling my husband that I am too young to be greying. He, of course, just told me that he could not see it because of the blonde. I know he was just trying to be nice but what the heck.

Now, during the COVID-19 pandemic, the non-essential businesses are closed and that includes my hair salon. I normally see my stylist every 5 weeks to cover those pesky greys. I am not sure when salons will open again but hopefully before my hair turns ALL grey instead of just the roots.
I noticed recently during a TV interview that my boobs were a bit droopy despite buying a brand-new bra.  YIKES!  That was on live TV, people.

And, last summer, I shared a post of me after a pap exam.  You can see the post here - it's funny, I promise.

Transition and Growth
I am learning to accept my body (wrinkles, extra fat, you name it), learning to let go of things I can't change so I can find peace, learning to be grateful for every day that I open my eyes and am able to crawl out of bed. Most of all, I am learning to just live life.  This is the only life I have so I should make the best of it.


If you're in your fifties and looking for support, send me an email so we can chat on how I can help you.  We are in this together girlfriend.


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Cherie Faus Smith

Cherie Faus-Smith is a bestselling author, keynote speaker, & mentor focusing on women over 50. Her goal is to inspire women (like you!) to live life on their own terms.
 
She shares her experiences as a domestic abuse thriver, melanoma cancer survivor, and being diagnosed with an anxiety disorder to inspire women to live life to the fullest, push their comfort zones, and be their absolute best.
 
Her mission is to empower women in their 50’s to discover their own unique purpose in life. She helps women get unstuck so they can get excited about their life again and feel more fulfilled than ever before.
 
Midlife is a stage of transitions and change can be scary. Cherie will guide, motivate, inspire, and support you in your new journey.
 
Find out more about Cherie by visiting her website.  Also, you can you can follow her on Instagram and Facebook.

1 Comment
Venkat link
5/8/2020 04:45:03 am

You have gone through tough times and the fact that you are out of it successfully and smiling is great. I am in my forties and I am getting ready to embrace my fifties with the same courage you are showcasing. Love to be on the same boat. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

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